Signs of emotional manipulation and cheating in a relationship

Signs of emotional manipulation and cheating in a relationship

A relationship is supposed to be based on trust and emotional connection, but what if your trust is being breached and your connection is being severed by the person who is supposed to love you unconditionally?

Emotional manipulation refers to various tactics employed by a person to play mind games and control another person to gain favors of any kind.

It leaves the victim emotionally drained and reduces them to a mere puppet.

Getting caught lying, cheating, and then profusely apologizing and asking for a second chance, only to lie again, creates a vicious cycle.

A cycle in which you become trapped and things start to become toxic and start to take a toll on your mental health while everything thing starts to fall apart, especially if you have your children involved.

But even if you are able to break through this cycle, it makes it harder to trust other people and you start to become receptive to others’ intentions towards you. You may also begin to question whether it is you who is inadequate for your partner.

However, when you emerge from such toxicity, you return as someone stronger, sturdier, and more resilient. Before you move on to this blog further, I want you to know it’s not your fault that your partner lies to you.

The problem lies deeper, there will be many ups and downs in a relationship and it involves a lot of mistakes and forgiveness. But take notice if your partner is willing to change or if he/she is repeating the same mistakes again and again.

Here are signs of emotional manipulation you might want to watch out for-

1. Make you feel guilty

There may be times they could gaslighten you. It’s always easy to blame others and evade getting confronted. They can turn the whole thing into you and how sensitive or dramatic you are and how you cannot be more mature.

2. Manipulation tactic

There will be many ups and downs in a relationship and it involves a lot of mistakes and forgiveness. But take notice if your partner is willing to change or if he/she is repeating the same mistakes again and again. A person without changing their way is earning your forgiveness easily and can manipulate you. They may be cheating on you but are hiding it better now.

3. Evading confrontation

Verbal communication with your partner is vital for the survival of any relationship. It helps you to get to know your significant other and also helps you to resolve any conflict arising at that point so you won’t be feeling tension around them. But when they start to change the topics of concern in relationships when their behaviors are in question, they are either hiding something. It may make you feel isolated and breed friction in your relationship.

4. Insults and humiliation

Mutual respect underpins a healthy relationship. Jokes and pranks should not be hurtful. It should not target your insecurities when you obviously told them with trust. It also entails passive aggressiveness, which they use indirectly to blow out their steam. It’s a red flag that you should not turn a blind eye to.

5. denial/ lying

You can see someone lying by noticing their body language, cross-questioning, and how vague they are being. Instead of accepting their fault, they become more defensive and even start to blame you.

6. Excessively controlling

A person caring for you is different from someone who is extremely possessive. Commanding you and curbing what you love to do is toxic and needs to go away in a relationship.

If they are constantly watching your every social and private aspect, it is their insecurity manifesting itself. They do not respect your feelings and even go as far as to stalk your every move.

Asking for social media passwords, limiting your friend list, and telling you what to do and wear are just a few of the many ways they try to exert control. They may attempt to alter the way you dress, how much you weigh, and also how you interact with others.

Conclusion

Every relationship is different and special in its own way. It’s not always perfect as it has its own ebbs and flows and, therefore, mutual understanding and respect are basic necessities, but when one can’t get the bare minimum from your respected partners, then a relationship is doomed.

There are many signs that can hint at your partner lying and cheating on you. Therefore, trust your intuition. It’s a rather hard move to make and get over a person you were so connected to at one point in time, but we all deserve peace and true affection without any deception.

So, read the signs of their actions, and don't wait for them to completely destroy your mental health. But it's okay because we all make mistakes in life; what matters is whether you learn from them.

About the author

Priti Kumari Rajak is a new content writer with an English major. She was born on May 26, 2003, in Kharagpur, West Bengal, and is currently in Bhubaneswar for her graduation. She reads a lot and could probably talk about books all day. She is always eager to learn new skills and never cowers away from hard work. She is a dedicated and orderly individual who has a passion for writing.

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